My dream last night

[Lex]

I dreamed I was in a town I've never seen, it felt kinda like a video game where you wander and meet people (like a weird harvest moon64)
I came to the door after someone knocked where I lived and dropped my phone in the snow on the porch because it was someone I know and have been wanting to meet for a very long time, I hugged them tightly and they told me that since I couldn't come to.them they came to me and that they had a hotel and wanted me to show them around the city.
I quickly dressed and it was late spring early summer so not very hot I recall wearing shorts and a tank top.. it remember this because I'm self conscious and it bothered me to realize I seemed ok with it. We stopped at a cocktail bar and got some food and a bit to eat, I showed him the skyline and the parks it became dark and he was chatting away and I was walking ahead of him when a couple of men walked passed and said "nice ass" to me and they person I was with agreed and grabbed it saying it was a great ass... (don't jugde Me,I'm not sure what my celibate brain is on about as this is the first dream ive had like this)
I just remember getting embarassed and walking him to his hotel to drop him off but while we walked through the park I got annoyed at him seemingly being casual to me... and I took his face in my hands and kissed him, when I pulled away I thought he must not like me because he didn't kiss me back so I told him I was gonna leave as he was near his hotel, he grabbed my arm and gave the cock smile that melts me and breaks my damn heart and he kisses me really passionately we end up back at the hotel room and the next moment it's early morning and I'm coming out of the bathroom and find him sleeping soundly and I sit next to him on the bed just walking him sleep and I recall thinking how nice it is to see him peaceful, and how I never thought I'd get to enjoy this moment.
I wake up reaching out to stroke his face.

Even though the actions where passionate in the dream I didn't feel the feelings it was like watching a show the emotions weren't mine until we were in the hotel room.

It was a weird dream but not a bad one like a lot of the others I've been having.

 

[Helia]

I dreamed I was in a town I've never seen, it felt kinda like a video game where you wander and meet people (like a weird harvest moon64)
I came to the door after someone knocked where I lived and dropped my phone in the snow on the porch because it was someone I know and have been wanting to meet for a very long time, I hugged them tightly and they told me that since I couldn't come to.them they came to me and that they had a hotel and wanted me to show them around the city.
I quickly dressed and it was late spring early summer so not very hot I recall wearing shorts and a tank top.. it remember this because I'm self conscious and it bothered me to realize I seemed ok with it. We stopped at a cocktail bar and got some food and a bit to eat, I showed him the skyline and the parks it became dark and he was chatting away and I was walking ahead of him when a couple of men walked passed and said "nice ass" to me and they person I was with agreed and grabbed it saying it was a great ass... (don't jugde Me,I'm not sure what my celibate brain is on about as this is the first dream ive had like this)
I just remember getting embarassed and walking him to his hotel to drop him off but while we walked through the park I got annoyed at him seemingly being casual to me... and I took his face in my hands and kissed him, when I pulled away I thought he must not like me because he didn't kiss me back so I told him I was gonna leave as he was near his hotel, he grabbed my arm and gave the cock smile that melts me and breaks my damn heart and he kisses me really passionately we end up back at the hotel room and the next moment it's early morning and I'm coming out of the bathroom and find him sleeping soundly and I sit next to him on the bed just walking him sleep and I recall thinking how nice it is to see him peaceful, and how I never thought I'd get to enjoy this moment.
I wake up reaching out to stroke his face.

Even though the actions where passionate in the dream I didn't feel the feelings it was like watching a show the emotions weren't mine until we were in the hotel room.

It was a weird dream but not a bad one like a lot of the others I've been hav

 

[Helia]

Lex, i dont like that type of man🤔

 

[Lex]

Lex, i dont like that type of man🤔

It was weird I also don't like that behaviour. I hate feeling embarassed and the person I know, knows that. He's also more inclined to fight them then agree with them... it was a strange dream

 

[Will]

Hi Lex. I'm Will. I'm new to the forum. This seems classic "repressed" attraction and sexuality. In waking life you say you don't like this kind of guy and behavior. But it comes out in the dream. Maybe even just to explore it. See what that kind of situation would be like. Clearly you do like it because you kiss him, let him come back to your apartment, and presumably sleep with him. Also the flustered quality initially when you drop your phone. Am I on the right track here?

 

[Lex]

Hi Lex. I'm Will. I'm new to the forum. This seems classic "repressed" attraction and sexuality. In waking life you say you don't like this kind of guy and behavior. But it comes out in the dream. Maybe even just to explore it. See what that kind of situation would be like. Clearly you do like it because you kiss him, let him come back to your apartment, and presumably sleep with him. Also the flustered quality initially when you drop your phone. Am I on the right track here?

The person in the dream is someone I've not met in person we've talked for 20 years but haven't met yet. It is a relationship I hope to explore in the future and would be genuinely surprised if he showed up at my door to visit me, id be excited and pleased, but the type of person he is in this dream isn't this way he and I am in reality.on top of which the emotions weren't there, in the middle of the dream even though the actions were. Hence the comment on the clothing and feeling awkward and embarassed at the comments. The only feelings I felt was those moments of uncomfortable, embarassed feelings, i didnt feel the passion though i felt the kiss, the base feeling was kinda this calm ease of movement and connection, Am I repressed perhaps a bit but not in the way most people would understand, currently completing my divorce after 9 yrs married. I care about the person in the dream and I've never had such a normal type dream before, like even previous similar dreams had zombies or weird dream like qualities that let me know it was a dream, if it wasn't for the dampening emotions and the shifting area transitions I would of thought it wasn't a dream. Those I will say I would like to explore things with that person.

 

[PaulKH]

Too many people assume the dreams they have are always about them, so must be repressed such-and-such, but consider that dreams can open us up to far different, *outside* experiences (sometimes for their own sakes, or for other vicarious learning possibilities), going so far as to *place* you inside someone else's life/thoughts/feelings, even if that feels like an alternative-you. Consider that angle and then revisit the dream; does that make more of it click or feel more informative rather than just confusing-icky-bittersweet? Consider that to truly experience a bad boy as you did gives you a very well-rounded (more complete) picture of the attraction and actions even as the woman knows it is a mistake on her part to allow it. You can feel both why she would and why she shouldn't at the same time, can gain that entire experience from within the safety-from-ramifications dream, and that is value (especially if you use it to gain wisdom, rather than more emotional confusion). In short, consider it an offering to broaden your perspective, and see if you can maximize your personal value from having had that experience. Hope that helps at least a little.

 

[Lex]

Too many people assume the dreams they have are always about them, so must be repressed such-and-such, but consider that dreams can open us up to far different, *outside* experiences (sometimes for their own sakes, or for other vicarious learning possibilities), going so far as to *place* you inside someone else's life/thoughts/feelings, even if that feels like an alternative-you. Consider that angle and then revisit the dream; does that make more of it click or feel more informative rather than just confusing-icky-bittersweet? Consider that to truly experience a bad boy as you did gives you a very well-rounded (more complete) picture of the attraction and actions even as the woman knows it is a mistake on her part to allow it. You can feel both why she would and why she shouldn't at the same time, can gain that entire experience from within the safety-from-ramifications dream, and that is value (especially if you use it to gain wisdom, rather than more emotional confusion). In short, consider it an offering to broaden your perspective, and see if you can maximize your personal value from having had that experience. Hope that helps at least a little.

It was helpful, thank you Paul

 

[PaulKH]

Oh wow, that was lightning-quick and you are most welcome; note I also just had an extensive maybe-me-maybe-not-me dream.

As an aside, I was confused by your seeming contradictions of "dropped my phone in the snow" and then the "late spring early summer...so I recall wearing shorts and a tank top" -- is this some sort of time warp I missed, or a dream discontinuity (perhaps hint), or intentionally put in to check to see who actually *reads* the details? Inquiring minds wanna know. I'm pretty sure even polar bear club members would not wear those skimpy clothes during snow-time.

 

[Lex]

Oh wow, that was lightning-quick and you are most welcome; note I also just had an extensive maybe-me-maybe-not-me dream.

As an aside, I was confused by your seeming contradictions of "dropped my phone in the snow" and then the "late spring early summer...so I recall wearing shorts and a tank top" -- is this some sort of time warp I missed, or a dream discontinuity (perhaps hint), or intentionally put in to check to see who actually *reads* the details? Inquiring minds wanna know. I'm pretty sure even polar bear club members would not wear those skimpy clothes during snow-time.

No it your very quick to notice, it was a dream discrepancy, I felt like that may be because my trip to meet the person was put on hold for a variety of reasons. And because it was a dream I didn't pay attention to the shift of seasons, but that could also describe the change of feelings or perhaps trying to go call back to a time before. It's a detail I've been mulling over. It could also be that it had just snowed where I lived and it was coming out weirdly. Lol

 

[vanessa.johnson]

Honestly this reads like one of those dreams where your brain mixes wish fulfillment with random game like settings. The town part and the wandering around feels like your mind trying to build a place that feels safe and familiar even if it does not exist. The whole thing with being more relaxed about your clothes and the guy showing up might just be your brain testing how you feel about vulnerability. The ending with watching him sleep feels like you were craving some kind of calm connection more than anything else. It is wild how dreams hit you like that out of nowhere.

 

[Lex]

Honestly this reads like one of those dreams where your brain mixes wish fulfillment with random game like settings. The town part and the wandering around feels like your mind trying to build a place that feels safe and familiar even if it does not exist. The whole thing with being more relaxed about your clothes and the guy showing up might just be your brain testing how you feel about vulnerability. The ending with watching him sleep feels like you were craving some kind of calm connection more than anything else. It is wild how dreams hit you like that out of nowhere.

For sure, been dealing with a lot. And I'd say your assessments of the ending feels accurate. Dreams are wildly deep and I genuinely feel like sometimes having other people look at them helps open you up to parts of yourself you'd never realize otherwise